Often with online dating, someone is interested in someone, but the feeling is just not mutual? So, what should we do when this occurs? Do you let them know? Do you ignore or block them? Do you immediately delete your profile?

Gentle Let Down or Nasty Put Down?

I have, in the past, sent a few rejection letters. Once, I had a gentleman I work with send me a message. Other times I have had someone message me multiple times. Both times I tried to be polite and let them down in a gentle, nice way.

I hadn’t really thought too much about the concept of a rejection letter until I got this from a guy: “Please NEVER contact me again. I am not at all interested in you.”

Wow, yeah, he used the word please, but was that a little harsh? Here’s the kicker – I never did contact him. I never emailed him, never winked or wooed, never did anything except look at his profile. That alone tells me to discount what he is saying, obviously, this guy has issues.

When is a Rejection Letter Appropriate?

This got me thinking…when is a rejection letter appropriate, and when is it just mean? Do you tend to ignore messages from people you aren’t interested in or do you feel that if they took the time to write you, the least you can do is write back?

I have no idea what the guy who messaged me was thinking. I don’t know if he was trying to be a jerk, or if he thinks he’s a fantastically nice guy for letting me know that I should not waste my time looking at his profile (and oh yes, I blocked him!) I would like to believe that he had good intentions….but how do OUR good intentions come across to the rejectee?

I Want to Hear From Our Readers!

I don’t have an answer today…I really want to hear from our readers. Have you sent rejection letters? Did you get responses to them? Have you received rejection letters? Were they nice or mean? How did they make you feel?